President Thomas S. Monson on the sacrifices of soldiers

President Thomas S. Monson (1927–2018) was sustained to the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in 1963. He served as a counselor in the First Presidency with Presidents Benson, Hunter, and Hinckley and then became Church president in 2008. He led the Church for almost a decade until his passing in January 2018.

"One summer day I stood alone in the quiet of the American War Memorial Cemetery of the Philippines. A spirit of reverence filled the warm tropical air. Situated among the carefully mowed grass, acre upon acre, were markers identifying men, mostly young, who in battle gave their lives. As I let my eyes pass name by name along the many colonnades of honor, tears came easily and without embarrassment. As my eyes filled with tears, my heart swelled with pride. I contemplated the high price of liberty and the costly sacrifice many had been called upon to bear.

"My thoughts turned from those who bravely served and gallantly died. There came to mind the grief-stricken mother of each fallen man as she held in her hand the news of her precious son’s supreme sacrifice. Who can measure a mother’s grief? Who can probe a mother’s love? Who can comprehend in its entirety the lofty role of a mother? With perfect trust in God, she walks, her hand in his, into the valley of the shadow of death that you and I might come forth unto life."

- Thomas S. Monson, "Behold Thy Mother," General Conference October 1973
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It is well to pause occasionally and consider the contributions and sacrifices of those who have gone before. In the United States, Memorial Day is intended to encourage us to remember the sacrifices of those who served, and died, in the military. President Monson, a veteran himself from his Navy service near the end of World War II, was very sensitive to those sacrifices. I loved this personal experience of his mourning in a military cemetery in the Philippines:

Beyond the sacrifice of the soldiers, President Monson also extends his thoughts to the mothers of those soldiers. We sometimes forget the contribution of those who supported a child, husband, or close friend in these efforts and was left with the burden of loss and sadness at the death of a soldier.

Certainly, we should always remember "the high price of liberty and the costly sacrifice many had been called upon to bear."

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2019)

President Russell M. Nelson on the sacred role of mothers

President Russell M. Nelson (born Sept 9, 1924) was an internationally-renowned heart surgeon when he was called to serve as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in 1984. He became president of that quorum on July 15, 2015. Following the death of President Monson, he was set apart as president of the Church on January 14, 2018.

"During my professional career as a doctor of medicine, I was occasionally asked why I chose to do that difficult work. I responded with my opinion that the highest and noblest work in this life is that of a mother. Since that option was not available to me, I thought that caring for the sick might come close. I tried to care for my patients as compassionately and competently as Mother cared for me.

"Many years ago the First Presidency issued a statement that has had a profound and lasting influence upon me. 'Motherhood,' they wrote, 'is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angels.' (Heber J. Grant, J. Reuben Clark, Jr., David O. McKay, General Conference October 1942; see Clark, comp., Messages of the First Presidency, 6:178)

"Because mothers are essential to God’s great plan of happiness, their sacred work is opposed by Satan, who would destroy the family and demean the worth of women.

"You young men need to know that you can hardly achieve your highest potential without the influence of good women, particularly your mother and, in a few years, a good wife. Learn now to show respect and gratitude. Remember that your mother is your mother. She should not need to issue orders. Her wish, her hope, her hint should provide direction that you would honor. Thank her and express your love for her. And if she is struggling to rear you without your father, you have a double duty to honor her."

- Russell M. Nelson, "Our Sacred Duty to Honor Women," General Conference, April 1999
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President Nelson has spoken a number of times about the influence of his own mother. He developed a great respect for women as he was blessed by a kind and humble woman early in his life. For him, motherhood became "the highest and noblest work in this life"—the most significant and important role anyone could fill.

Meanwhile, President Nelson teaches that Satan seeks to disrupt our perception of the sacred role of mothers, to "destroy the family and demean the worth of women." We must be aware of those tactics and combat them.

This counsel to young men (and young women) is a great message:

As we come to understand the role of women and mothers, we will be eager and sensitive to support and sustain.

Photo taken in 1964 shortly before my father's death

The final sentence of the excerpt is particularly poignant to me, since I was raised by a single mother who was left with five children between ages 4 and 11 when her husband was killed in an accident. I love and honor her and pay tribute to her sacrifices and love for her children. It's hard to conceive of the struggles of single mothers. I wish I had been more aware of the principle President Nelson suggests for youth to be aware and attentive.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2019)

Elder Neal A. Maxwell on the eternal impact of mothers

Elder Neal A. Maxwell (1926-2004) served as a Seventy from 1976-1981, then as a member of the Quorum of Twelve until his death from cancer in 2004.

"When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and in neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses? When the surf of the centuries has made the great pyramids so much sand, the everlasting family will still be standing, because it is a celestial institution, formed outside telestial time. The women of God know this.

"No wonder the men of God support and sustain you sisters in your unique roles, for the act of deserting home in order to shape society is like thoughtlessly removing crucial fingers from an imperiled dike in order to teach people to swim.

"We men love you for meeting inconsiderateness with consideration and selfishness with selflessness. We are touched by the eloquence of your example. We are deeply grateful for your enduring us as men when we are not at our best because—like God—you love us not only for what we are, but for what we have the power to become.

"We have special admiration for the unsung but unsullied single women among whom are some of the noblest daughters of God. These sisters know that God loves them, individually and distinctly. They make wise career choices even though they cannot now have the most choice career. Though in their second estate they do not have their first desire, they still overcome the world. These sisters who cannot now enrich the institution of their own marriage so often enrich other institutions in society. They do not withhold their blessings simply because some blessings are now withheld from them. Their trust in God is like that of the wives who are childless, but not by choice, but who in the justice of God will receive special blessings one day."

- Neal A. Maxwell, "The Women of God," General Conference April 1978
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This is a beautiful, classic talk from Elder Maxwell, shared when he was a member of the Seventy. He shares an important perspective about what really, ultimately matters in this life; it is not the achievements of men and women in the world, but the quiet, powerful things that happen in home and family:

How grateful we should all be for the women who have given so much to contribute to the building of individual lives and character!

Elder Maxwell also acknowledges the faithful contribution of the women who don't have the privilege of serving currently as mothers, noting they "are some of the noblest daughters of God." I know many of those, and am grateful for their examples of faith and patience, trusting in God and in God's timing.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2018)

President Russell M. Nelson on responsibilities and opportunities of motherhood

President Russell M. Nelson (born Sept 9, 1924) was an internationally-renowned heart surgeon when he was called to serve as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in 1984. He became president of that quorum on July 15, 2015. Following the death of President Monson, he was set apart as president of the Church on January 14, 2018.

"As Adam bore responsibilities of fatherhood, so Eve bore the responsibilities of motherhood. She did not shirk them. So with welcome arms you may gratefully greet those children God may send, through your divine design as cocreator. With your husband, be obedient to the commandment to multiply and replenish the earth, as your opportunity, your spiritual guidance, your wisdom, and your health allow. You will gain joy and rejoicing in your posterity. That enrichment becomes more beautiful and precious with each passing year.

"For you childless sisters and those without companions, remember the eternal timetable of the Lord is much longer than the lonely hours of your preparation or the total of this mortal life. These are only as microseconds when compared to eternity. Your willingness and worthiness are surely known to Him. The spiritual rewards of motherhood are available to all women. Nurturing the young, comforting the frightened, protecting the vulnerable, teaching and giving encouragement need not—and should not—be limited to our own children.

"Sisters, be patient. I know something of the pressures you feel. Your kitchens are too small. Your budgets are too tight. Demands upon you exceed your capacity to help all who cry out to you. Through it all, 'Improve the shining moments; Don’t let them pass you by' (Hymns, 1985, no. 226). Take time for spiritual regeneration....

"I’m glad Sister Nelson has not tried to be a 'supermom.' But she has been a 'soothing' mom. This she has done simply by being herself.

"When priorities are in place, one can more patiently tolerate unfinished business."

- Russell M. Nelson, "Lessons from Eve," General Conference October 1987
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President Nelson has addressed the sacred roles of women and mothers on a number of occasions; this talk is worth reviewing for the five lessons he draws from the example of the first woman and mother on earth, largely from the description in Moses 5:

• She labored beside her companion
• She and Adam bore the responsibilities of parenthood
• She and her partner worshipped the Lord in prayer
• She and Adam heeded divine commandments of obedience and sacrifice
• She and her husband taught the gospel to their children

The excerpt quoted above is drawn from the second of those five points. President Nelson acknowledges the challenges that motherhood can present; but also recognizes the challenge faced by women who do not have the privilege of being mothers at the present time, helping share some eternal perspective on that aspect. He points out that "the spiritual rewards of motherhood are available to all women."

In discussing the challenges of coping with the many demands that come to mothers, President Nelson encouraged perspective and patience. Mothers can't do everything, and shouldn't try! They should, however, seek spiritual strength and keep a perspective on what matters most:

There are often things "left undone" in the midst of the demands of life. President Nelson reassures mothers in particular that they should not try to do everything. But as they seek for the most important part of their sacred role, they will be blessed and inspired to make those choices in ways that will truly make a difference in this life and in eternity.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2018)

President David O. McKay on the profound influence of mothers

President David O. McKay (1873-1970) was called to the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in 1906.  He served as a counselor in the First Presidency to Heber J. Grant and George Albert Smith beginning in 1945, then then as the president of the Church from 1951 to his death in 1970 at age 96.

"Motherhood is the greatest potential influence either for good or ill in human life. The mother's image is the first that stamps itself on the unwritten page of the young child's mind. It is her caress that first awakens a sense of security; her kiss, the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness, the first assurance that there is love in the world. True, there comes a time when Father takes his place as exemplar and hero of the growing boy; and in the latter's budding ambition to develop manly traits, he outwardly seems to turn from the more gentle and tender virtues engendered by his mother. Yet that ever-directing and restraining influence implanted during the first years of his childhood linger with him and permeate his thoughts and memory as distinctively as perfume clings to each particular flower."

- David O. McKay, Gospel Ideals, p. 452; True to the Faith, pp. 167–68

President McKay spoke on various occasions about this theme. He felt profoundly the blessing of a mother in his own life, and watched his beloved Emma care for their children. He had some of the best examples possible.

It's hard to quantify how important early impressions are on a child, and how deeply formative they must be. To have an image of kindness and gentleness "stamped" on the developing mind truly must make a difference:

President McKay suggests that in many cases, the father's influence is not felt as profoundly in the beginning but comes into play later. But yet the foundation set by a mother's love is something that influences the rest of life. How fortunate a child is to feel that sacred gift!

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2018)

President Gordon B. Hinckley on the divine potential of women

President Gordon B. Hinckley (1910-2008) was called to the Quorum of Twelve in 1961. He served as a counselor in the First Presidency from 1981-1995, then as Church President until his death in 2008.

"To you women, I wish to issue a challenge tonight. That challenge is to rise to the stature of the divine within you. As you have been reminded, yours is a godly inheritance. 'I am a child of God' is not an idle or meaningless statement....

"Is there anything more beautiful, anything that speaks more of divinity than a lovely little girl? I have little granddaughters, bright-eyed and beautiful, who sing and smile and touch my heart with thoughts of heaven....

"I see young women, radiant in the beauty of youth, whose virtue is more precious than rubies—young women who are bright and who study with enthusiasm and diligence to learn the word of the Lord and also to equip themselves to take their places with honor and ability in the world in which they will live. I see young women who know the word of God and can quote it; who know the standards of the Church and live by them; who have a sense of worth and a wondrous sensitivity to the beauties of life and nature, music and art; who treasure truth and seek to enlarge their understanding of it; who have determined that worthiness to enter the house of the Lord for a divine endowment and an eternal sealing is the most desirable of all goals. Can anyone doubt that there is something divine within such?

"I see young mothers. I have three daughters and two daughters-in-law who love and honor their husbands, who nurture and treasure and train their children, who teach and direct in the organizations of the Church, who go to the house of the Lord with unselfishness in their hearts, who love life and face its challenges and adversities as well as drink deeply of its enriching experiences and beauties....

"I observe older women, mature from the living of many years. In their hearts is a solid, unshakable residual of faith. In their souls is a great residual of love to be widely spread for the blessing of others. In their minds is an appreciation for goodness and truth and beauty. In their hearts is an understanding for and a love of God our Eternal Father and His Beloved Son, our Redeemer.

"These are among those who rise to the stature of the divine inheritance they carry."

- Gordon B. Hinckley, "Rise to the Stature of the Divine within You," General Conference Women's Meeting October 1989
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President Hinckley shared these remarks with a General Women's Meeting in the October 1989 conference. He was trying to convey his sense of the role of women in mortality through the different phases of their lives, their divine potential now and eternally, and the opportunities they have to do good.

The challenge to "rise to the stature of the divine within you" is a profound one. It conveys a sense of the faith we have in our divine heritage, as children of God, bearing His nature and potential. It invites us to become more like him as we progress through the stages of life, learning through faith and study, through service and experience. What a profound invitation it is for each of us to ponder!

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2018)

Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf on the influence of women in the lives of youth and children

Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf (born November 6, 1940) served as a Seventy from 1994-2004, when he was called as a member of the Quorum of Twelve.  He served as second counselor in the First Presidency from 2008 to 2018.

"As we look at the history of this earth and at the history of the restored Church of Jesus Christ, it becomes obvious that women hold a special place in our Father’s plan for the eternal happiness and well-being of His children.

"I hope that my dear sisters throughout the world—grandmothers, mothers, aunts, and friends—never underestimate the power of their influence for good, especially in the lives of our precious children and youth!...

"There is a saying that big gates move on small hinges. Sisters, your example in seemingly small things will make a big difference in the lives of our young people. The way you dress and groom yourselves, the way you talk, the way you pray, the way you testify, the way you live every day will make the difference. This includes which TV shows you watch, which music you prefer, and how you use the Internet. If you love to go to the temple, the young people who value your example will also love to go. If you adapt your wardrobe to the temple garment and not the other way around, they will know what you consider important, and they will learn from you.

"You are marvelous sisters and great examples. Our youth are blessed by you, and the Lord loves you for that."

- Dieter F. Uchtdorf, "The Influence of Righeous Women," Ensign, Sept 2009, pp. 2-7
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This article, written as a monthly First Presidency Message when President Uchtdorf was serving as a counselor to President Monson, shares doctrine and encouragement about the sacred role of righteous women in God's plan of happiness. President Uchtdorf expressed a vision of the potential for good that they have in so many ways:

The description of the example of righteous women and the influence that small things can have is a powerful reminder. Those "seemingly small things" that include appearance, speech, choices of priorities, and dress truly can "make a big difference in the lives of our young people." How important for all of us, women and men alike, to consider carefully the messages we are sharing!

The rest of the article contains personal stories of President Uchtdorf's family, and additional counsel that is well worth reviewing particularly for women, but also for men as we consider how we esteem and treat the women in our lives.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2018)

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland on divine help in the challenges of motherhood

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland (born December 3, 1940) served as Church Commissioner of Education from 1976-1980, as the president of BYU from 1980-1989, as a Seventy from 1989-1994, and as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles since 1994.

"When you have come to the Lord in meekness and lowliness of heart and, as one mother said, 'pounded on the doors of heaven to ask for, to plead for, to demand guidance and wisdom and help for this wondrous task,' that door is thrown open to provide you the influence and the help of all eternity. Claim the promises of the Savior of the world. Ask for the healing balm of the Atonement for whatever may be troubling you or your children. Know that in faith things will be made right in spite of you, or more correctly, because of you.

"You can’t possibly do this alone, but you do have help. The Master of Heaven and Earth is there to bless you—He who resolutely goes after the lost sheep, sweeps thoroughly to find the lost coin, waits everlastingly for the return of the prodigal son. Yours is the work of salvation, and therefore you will be magnified, compensated, made more than you are and better than you have ever been as you try to make honest effort, however feeble you may sometimes feel that to be.

"Remember, remember all the days of your motherhood: 'Ye have not come thus far save it were by the word of Christ with unshaken faith in him, relying wholly upon the merits of him who is mighty to save.' (2 Ne. 31:19.)

"Rely on Him. Rely on Him heavily. Rely on Him forever. And 'press forward with a steadfastness in Christ, having a perfect brightness of hope.' (2 Ne. 31:20.) You are doing God’s work. You are doing it wonderfully well. He is blessing you and He will bless you, even—no, especially—when your days and your nights may be the most challenging. Like the woman who anonymously, meekly, perhaps even with hesitation and some embarrassment, fought her way through the crowd just to touch the hem of the Master’s garment, so Christ will say to the women who worry and wonder and sometimes weep over their responsibility as mothers, 'Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole.' (Matt. 9:22.) And it will make your children whole as well."

- Jeffrey R. Holland, "Because She Is a Mother," General Conference April 1997
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I posted an excerpt from this talk three years ago (Jeffrey R. Holland on praise for mothers), but it is so full of insight and inspiration that I have to share another, and encourage readers to review the complete talk in anticipation of Mother's Day this week.

Part of the power of Elder Holland's address is acknowledging the difficulties and challenges faced by mothers, and the feelings of inadequacy and loneliness that sometimes creep in. He powerfully reassures them of two things: 1) they are doing "wonderfully well" in the task, far better than they sometimes understand; and 2) they have help available from Heaven to bless and sustain. This is a wonderful formula for any of us who struggle with any aspect of our mortality: "Yours is the work of salvation, and therefore you will be magnified, compensated, made more than you are and better than you have ever been as you try to make honest effort, however feeble you may sometimes feel that to be."

Truly, mothers bear some heavy burdens, and where we are in a position to help, we should do all we can to assist in bearing those burdens. But perhaps turning one another to Christ and helping all to know how to draw on His power is the most important thing we can do for each other. There is divine help available for us in powerful ways. There is peace and hope and confidence, through Him. That truth will never change.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2018)

President Thomas S. Monson on the powerful influence of mothers

President Thomas S. Monson (b. August 21, 1927) was sustained to the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in 1963. He served as a counselor in the First Presidency with Presidents Benson, Hunter, and Hinckley until becoming Church president in 2008.

"'Mother,' more than any other word, is held in universal esteem by all peoples everywhere. It brings forth from the soul the most tender of hidden emotions, prompts more good deeds, kindles memories' fires as they burn low and reminds all to strive to be better.

"'Mother,' or its abbreviated version, 'Mama,' is the first word tiny lips form. What joy fills mother's heart when first she hears this expression from her child. 'Mother' becomes the most frequently spoken word, as well. As little ones grow, they call mother to their side to share each new discovery, each accomplishment, each disappointment, each concern. And mother always obliges.

"Years pass, and children become more independent. They move away from mother's protective care; but they are ever influenced by mother's teachings, mother's example, and mothers love. Some appear by their actions to have forgotten this influence. Wild and wasteful pathways are pursued, evil deeds done, and honor sacrificed for the sham of worldly gain. However far from the home hearth the wanderer travels, the word 'mother' mentally and emotionally brings him homeward once again. And mother, as always, stands ready to forgive."

- Thomas S. Monson, "Honor Thy Mother," Mother's Day Pamphlet, 1981; see Teachings of Thomas S. Monson p. 198

President Monson's tender and sincere appreciation for women and mothers is apparent in this excerpt, as he acknowledges the powerful influence a mother can have on children in many different ways and over many years. Even the simple word "mother" evokes memories and emotions that can bless and support us through challenges and trials, since it represents the person who we know loved and supported us in so many ways.

Even as we grow and mature, becoming "more independent," the influence of mother's teachings, example, and love continue a powerful force. There are times when we long for a conversation, a touch, a reassurance from a mother who is no longer here; but we always know her love will abide, and that knowledge can bless and sustain us more than we would expect. May God bless noble mothers everywhere!

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2017)

The First Presidency on the holy calling of motherhood

During the opening session of the October 1942 general conference, a message from the First Presidency (President Heber J. Grant, 1st Counselor J. Reuben Clark Jr., and 2nd Counselor David O. McKay) was read by President Clark.

"Motherhood thus becomes a holy calling, a sacred dedication for carrying out the Lord's plans, a consecration of devotion to the uprearing and fostering, the nurturing in body, mind, and spirit, of those who kept their first estate and who come to this earth for their second estate 'to see if they will do all things whatsoever the Lord their God shall command them' (Abr. 3:25). To lead them to keep their second estate is the work of motherhood and 'they who keep their second estate shall have glory added upon their heads for ever and ever' (Abr. 3:26).

"This divine service of motherhood can be rendered only by mothers. It may not be passed to others. Nurses cannot do it; public nurseries cannot do it; hired help cannot do it—only mother, aided as much as may be by the loving hands of father, brothers, and sisters, can give the full needed measure of watchful care.

"The mother who entrusts her child to the care of others, that she may do non-motherly work, whether for gold, for fame, or for civic service, should remember that 'a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame' (Prov. 29:15). In our day the Lord has said that unless parents teach their children the doctrines of the Church 'the sin be upon the heads of the parents' (D&C 68:25).

"Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angels. To you mothers in Israel we say God bless and protect you, and give you the strength and courage, the faith and knowledge, the holy love and consecration to duty, that shall enable you to fill to the fullest measure the sacred calling which is yours. To you mothers and mothers-to-be we say: Be chaste, keep pure, live righteously, that your posterity to the last generation may call you blessed."

- Message of the First Presidency (Heber J. Grant, J. Reuben Clark Jr., David O. McKay), General Conference, October 1942; see Conference Report, October 1942, pp. 12-13; see Clark, Messages of the First Presidency 6:170-185
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This remarkable statement, coming in a sad and troubled time as a World War raged on, gives us an amazing vision and understanding of the sacred role of motherhood in the Lord's plan. These phrases indicate a little of that vision, that seems hardly to be understood in the world of our day:

• holy calling
• sacred devotion
• consecration of devotion
• nurturing in body, mind, and spirit
• divine service
• watchful care
• near to divinity
• highest, holiest service

What an amazing, sacred, precious gift this is! What an eternal responsibility and duty! How fortunate we are, in contrast to the world at large, to see so many around us who grasp that concept and magnify the holy calling with faith and personal sacrifice. Surely, God will "bless and protect" those who demonstrate "the strength and courage, the faith and knowledge, the holy love and consecration to duty" of motherhood.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2017)

Elder M. Russell Balllard on the gifts and roles of righteous women and mothers

Elder M. Russell Ballard (born October 8, 1928) was called as a Seventy in 1976, and has served as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles since 1985.

"Mothers and daughters play a critical role in helping each other explore their infinite possibilities, despite the undermining influences of a world in which womanhood and motherhood are being corrupted and manipulated.

"Speaking to the women of the Church nearly a century ago, President Joseph F. Smith said: 'It is not for you to be led by the women of the world; it is for you to lead the ... women of the world, in everything that is praise-worthy, everything that is God-like, everything that is uplifting and ... purifying to the children of men' (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Joseph F. Smith [1998], 184).

"Sisters, we, your brethren, cannot do what you were divinely designated to do from before the foundation of the world. We may try, but we cannot ever hope to replicate your unique gifts. There is nothing in this world as personal, as nurturing, or as life changing as the influence of a righteous woman."

- M. Russell Ballard, "Mothers and Daughters," General Conference, April 2010
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How sad to live in a world where, as Elder Ballard states, "womanhood and motherhood are being corrupted and manipulated." Satan is subtle in how he can cause decay and decline in our vision, sometimes in the name of equality and opportunity. I love the thought that righteous mothers and daughters can help reinforce one another as they "explore their infinite possibilities," and not just the temporal ones that Satan would point us towards.

The quote from Joseph F. Smith is profound. Righteous women today must lead out and show the world what it is to be praiseworthy, uplifting, and God-like.

And not only can righteous women make a profound difference in supporting one another, they also participate in works which have no equal; no man can match the loving, nurturing gifts of a daughter of God who understands her divine role and gifts.

(Compilation and commentary by David Kenison, Orem, Utah, 2017)

M. Russell Ballard on the sacred and challenging role of mothers

Elder M. Russell Ballard (1928- ) was called as a Seventy in 1976, and has served as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles since 1985.

"There is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.

"There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family.... What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply and, in keeping with the devotion she has for God and her husband, prioritizes them above all else....

"It is crucial to focus on our children for the short time we have them with us and to seek, with the help of the Lord, to teach them all we can before they leave our homes. This eternally important work falls to mothers and fathers as equal partners. I am grateful that today many fathers are more involved in the lives of their children. But I believe that the instincts and the intense nurturing involvement of mothers with their children will always be a major key to their well-being. In the words of the proclamation on the family, 'Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children' ('The Family: A Proclamation to the World,' Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102).

"We need to remember that the full commitment of motherhood and of putting children first can be difficult. Through my own four-generation experience in our family, and through discussions with mothers of young children throughout the Church, I know something of a mother's emotions that accompany her commitment to be at home with young children. There are moments of great joy and incredible fulfillment, but there are also moments of a sense of inadequacy, monotony, and frustration. Mothers may feel they receive little or no appreciation for the choice they have made. Sometimes even husbands seem to have no idea of the demands upon their wives.

"As a Church, we have enormous respect and gratitude to you mothers of young children. We want you to be happy and successful in your families and to have the validation and support you need and deserve."

- M. Russell Ballard, "Daughters of God," Ensign, May 2008, pp. 109-110
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Not all women are blessed to be mothers. Those who are find themselves in an essential, eternal role with tremendous responsibilities and compensatory blessings. How vital to recognize that there are "moments of great joy and incredible fulfillment, but there are also moments of a sense of inadequacy, monotony, and frustration."

Part of the challenges come because of what Elder Ballard notes; "there is no one perfect way to be a good mother," since each situation is so different, and each child is different. The answer is to learn to love deeply, and prioritize properly. The time for the deepest influence a parent has on a child is really very brief, and Elder Ballard reminds all parents to take full advantage of those short years of opportunity.

But in the end, this gift of motherhood and fatherhood is truly a treasure to be highly valued. How grateful we should all be for those who made those sacrifices in life to teach, guide, nurture, and bless us in so many ways!

James E. Faust on gratitude for sacred motherhood

President James E. Faust (1920 - 2007) was called as a Seventy in 1976, then as a member of the Quorum of Twelve in 1978. He served as a counselor to President Hinckley from 1995 until his death in 2007 at age 87.

"The First Presidency of this church has said, 'Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind' (Messages of the First Presidency, 6:178). The priesthood cannot work out its destiny, nor can God's purposes be fulfilled, without our helpmates. Mothers perform a labor the priesthood cannot do. For this supernal gift of life the priesthood should have love unbounded for the mothers of their children. Men should give them honor, gratitude, reverence, respect, and praise. A man who fails to gratefully acknowledge his debt to his own mother who gave him life is insensitive to the Holy Spirit....

"I wish to repeat that I do not believe that God's purposes on earth will ever be achieved without the influence, strength, love, support, and special gifts of the elect women of God. They are entitled to our deepest veneration, our fullest appreciation, and our most profound respect. I believe angels attend them in their motherly ministry."

- James E. Faust, "The Highest Place of Honor," Ensign May 1988, p. 36
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I've always loved the description of motherhood given by Heber J. Grant and his counselors in this message.

These words are part of a larger section of a great message, that includes these words:

"Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angels. To you mothers in Israel we say God bless and protect you, and give you the strength and courage, the faith and knowledge, the holy love and consecration to duty, that shall enable you to fill to the fullest measure the sacred calling which is yours. To you mothers and mothers-to-be we say: Be chaste, keep pure, live righteously, that your posterity to the last generation may call you blessed."
- Clark, Messages of the First Presidency, 6:178

President Faust goes on to share some of his own perspective on the sacred nature of the calling of mothers. He challenges men to fully understand and acknowledge the blessing that women are, and to demonstrate that appreciation.

D. Todd Christofferson on the unequaled influence of mothers

Elder D. Todd Christofferson (b. January 24, 1945) was called to the Seventy in 1993, and as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles in 2008.

"Women bring with them into the world a certain virtue, a divine gift that makes them adept at instilling such qualities as faith, courage, empathy, and refinement in relationships and in cultures....

"A woman's moral influence is nowhere more powerfully felt or more beneficially employed than in the home. There is no better setting for rearing the rising generation than the traditional family, where a father and a mother work in harmony to provide for, teach, and nurture their children. Where this ideal does not exist, people strive to duplicate its benefits as best they can in their particular circumstances.

"In all events, a mother can exert an influence unequaled by any other person in any other relationship. By the power of her example and teaching, her sons learn to respect womanhood and to incorporate discipline and high moral standards in their own lives. Her daughters learn to cultivate their own virtue and to stand up for what is right, again and again, however unpopular. A mother's love and high expectations lead her children to act responsibly without excuses, to be serious about education and personal development, and to make ongoing contributions to the well-being of all around them....

"My plea to women and girls today is to protect and cultivate the moral force that is within you. Preserve that innate virtue and the unique gifts you bring with you into the world. Your intuition is to do good and to be good, and as you follow the Holy Spirit, your moral authority and influence will grow."

- D. Todd Christofferson, "The Moral Force of Women," Ensign, Nov 2013, pp. 29-32
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It's good to ponder and appreciate the unique qualities and characteristics that women have. Elder Christofferson describes "a divine gift" given to women, enabling them to be "adept at instilling" special qualities in others. I've witnessed that ability on many occasions! What a treasure that divine gift is, and how it should be appreciated, used, and magnified.

And particularly in the home setting, Elder Christofferson explains, where a mother's ability to instill those qualities can have such a lasting impact. It's a profound claim that "a mother can exert an influence unequaled by any other person in any other relationship" as she teaches her sons and daughters by word and example.

But gifts that are given must be received, developed, and implemented. Hence the plea of the closing paragraph to women and girls everywhere, to preserve and treasure that divine gift, allow it to grow in influence and goodness!

Wilford Woodruff on revelation and the strength of women in the Church

Wilford Woodruff (1807-1898) was called as an apostle in 1839 by Joseph Smith, and sustained as the 4th president of the Church in 1889.  He served until his death in 1898 at age 91.

"Oh! Ye Latter-day Saints, you talk about revelation, and wonder if there is any revelation. Why, bless your souls, say nothing about the Apostles and Elders around me, these mountains contain thousands upon thousands of devoted women, holy women, righteous women, virtuous women, who are filled with the inspiration of Almighty God. Yes, these women have brought forth an army of sons and daughters in these mountains, by the power of God, and these sons and daughters partake of the inspiration of their mothers, as well as of their fathers.... Yes, we have revelation. The Church of God could not live twenty-four hours without revelation."

- Wilford Woodruff, Deseret Weekly, 45:545, October 9, 1892; see Discourses of Wilford Woodruff, p. 61
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This statement was shared in 1892, a few months before the dedication of the Salt Lake temple. Life was quite different in the Utah territory (didn't become a state until 1896) than it is today. But I think the message of this quote still rings true. Revelation abounds, and one of the greatest recipients of that gift are the faithful and sensitive women in Zion.

The question then is, am *I* receiving the revelation that I should? If not, why not? Joseph Smith taught, “God hath not revealed anything to Joseph, but what He will make known unto the Twelve, and even the least Saint may know all things as fast as he is able to bear them..." (History of the Church, 3:380).

Jeffrey R. Holland offers a tribute to mothers

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland (b. 1940) served as Church Commissioner of Education from 1976-1980, as the president of BYU from 1980-1989, as a Seventy from 1989-1994, and as a member of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles since 1994.

"No love in mortality comes closer to approximating the pure love of Jesus Christ than the selfless love a devoted mother has for her child....

"You see, it is not only that they bear us, but they continue bearing with us. It is not only the prenatal carrying but the lifelong carrying that makes mothering such a staggering feat. Of course, there are heartbreaking exceptions, but most mothers know intuitively, instinctively that this is a sacred trust of the highest order....

"A wonderful young mother recently wrote to me: '...Maternal love has to be divine. There is no other explanation for it. What mothers do is an essential element of Christ’s work. Knowing that should be enough to tell us the impact of such love will range between unbearable and transcendent, over and over again, until with the safety and salvation of the very last child on earth, we can [then] say with Jesus, "[Father!] I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do." (John 17:4)' ...

"To all of our mothers everywhere, past, present, or future, I say, 'Thank you. Thank you for giving birth, for shaping souls, for forming character, and for demonstrating the pure love of Christ.' ... To all mothers in every circumstance, including those who struggle—and all will—I say, 'Be peaceful. Believe in God and yourself. You are doing better than you think you are. In fact, you are saviors on Mount Zion (see Obadiah 1:21), and like the Master you follow, your love "never faileth" (Moroni 7:46; see also 1 Corinthians 13:8).' I can pay no higher tribute to anyone."

- Jeffrey R. Holland, "Behold Thy Mother," General Conference, October 2015, Saturday afternoon session
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Elder Holland shared a tender tribute to mothers in his October 2015 conference talk. This is not the first time he's addressed this topic, one that is dear to his heart. He gave some poignant examples of the depth of love and devotion usually expressed in this responsibility. This thought rings true to me—it is not just the bearing of children in which a mother shows her devotion that is pure and lasting:

In acknowledging that motherhood is often very challenging and difficult, Elder Holland reassured those who might be struggling through some aspect of their lives to have peace and patience.  "You are doing better than you think you are."